Don't believe the rumors - women aren't just looking for abs, man buns, and impossibly white smiles (though they're all definitely very nice things). The things you've been reading in men's magazines might not be telling you the whole truth. Think about it - they have products to sell that require you to feel like you need improvement.
1. A Sense Of Purpose
If you don't have a sense of purpose in life, it can be a big problem when you get into a relationship. If you meet an interesting woman with lots of projects and purpose in her life, it's great if you have your own thing going on, too. Women find it attractive when men care about something and dedicate time to it. It could be a career you're developing, a hobby you're passionate about, or even some volunteer work that means a lot to you.
Sometimes a purpose doesn't even have to be something you choose. For example, you may spend a lot of time caring for an elderly relative or tend to other members of your family. All of the above are admirable traits. If you don't have a purpose, it usually indicates that you're looking to your partner for answers, which often turns women off.
2. The Ability To Fix Things
Look, we're not trying to say we don't value our own ability to fix things - lots of women love their independence and will give most things a try before handing the job over to someone else. But it is definitely attractive when a man knows his way around a tool box. Whether it's some shelves that need assembling or some outdoor work, it's very nice to know that you can rely on your man to help you out in a home decorating crisis.
Just to make things clear, there's no need to be a DIY expert, but the simple ability to put things together, potentially build small objects, mow the lawn if necessary, and hang a picture or two will not go unappreciated! In addition to being attractive, being able to fix things also saves a lot of money.
3. Love For His Family
As we briefly touched on earlier, a man who cares for and loves his family is an almost instant winner when it comes to getting approval from the ladies. When a man cares about his family, it reveals a lot of positive information about him to potential female partners. We're going to explain why, so you really get where we're coming from.
Firstly, it shows that he is devoted should he decide to start a family of his own one day. Secondly, it shows that he doesn't abandon those close to him, even when times get tough. Thirdly, it shows that he is emotionally mature and has the ability to love (believe us, plenty of men don't have this one!). It's also very sweet to see a man show non-sexual affection to others - don't ask us why!
4. Goals And Dreams
There's nothing more attractive than a man who knows what he wants. And let's face it, if you don't have goals, what do you have to look forward to in life? The absence of any dreams or future goals indicates to women that you're looking to them for direction, which is not a big turn on for most of us. Women don't want to be your mother, they want a partner. A partner who will participate in shared goals as a couple.
When we say 'goals' we don't mean that you have to be training for a marathon or starting a very ambitious business (though those certainly count). It can be something as small as loving to set aside time to write every day or hoping to own a home one day. Do you want a family? That counts as a goal, too!
5. Possession Of Some Old School Class
Just because women are perfectly capable of surviving without men doesn't mean we don't appreciate some of that old-fashioned chivalry from time to time. As long as you do it with a smile on your face and no expectation of any returned favors, there's nothing wrong with helping a lady out when you want to. Really, there's nothing wrong with helping anyone out when you can, even a fellow dude!
Feel free to open doors, tell us we look beautiful, give up your seat on the subway, and offer a helping hand whenever you can. If a woman refuses, don't take it personally and she'll appreciate you even more. While we're at it, some old-fashioned clothing wouldn't go astray either. We're talking nice belts, crisp shirts, bow ties, and anything else that is totally gentlemanly.
6. Communication Skills
When it comes to men, the strong and silent type certainly has some appeal at first. But women will soon lose interest in a man who can't communicate what he's feeling. Take our word for it - we've all been there, done that with a man who is too afraid to open up and share what's on his mind. And it's not an experience many of us are looking to repeat any time soon. In some cases, we might as well stay single and avoid the hassle.
The good news for all of the brooding, emotionally unavailable men out there is that you're perfectly capable of changing and learning to share your feelings with someone else. If this is something you've struggled with, it's definitely worth exploring why you find it difficult to open up and be vulnerable around women.
7. Attentive In The Bedroom
As a woman, one of the biggest turn offs in a man is selfishness in the bedroom. Many of us have excitedly hooked up with a new partner, only to be severely disappointed when it comes to sex. This kind of thing happens all the time and will continue to happen multiple times throughout a woman's life. We're not talking about men who lack experience, we're talking about men who simply don't care about pleasing the person they're with.
Always make sure you're looking out for your partner's needs in the bedroom. If you're nervous and feel like you're too inexperienced, ask her what she likes and she'll be more than happy to guide you down the right path. The main thing is that you should care about her pleasure and make efforts to ensure she has a good time, too.
8. Has Good Manners
This one is simple but so essential. Countless stories have been told around the world about the man who lost his chance due to messy eating on a date, not saying please or thank you, or being rude to someone in public. Sometimes it's as simple as picking up a knife and a fork and not using your hands to eat dinner.
Women really appreciate a man who knows his manners and remains polite in frustrating situations. After all, most of us are looking for a partner we can confidently take home to our families, so a rude boy isn't going to make the cut. Try working on your manners if you feel this might be your downfall. Keep your cool in tough times and always eat with cutlery and you should be more than fine!
9. Confidence Without The Attitude
This might seem like women are a little too hard to please, but it's really not much to ask. Confidence is super sexy when it exists without a side of added cockiness. A massive ego and an attitude indicating that you think you're better than everyone else is not a turn on for anyone. Guys who talk over other people, only want to engage in conversations about themselves, and explain simple concepts to people as though they don't already know are a major pain.
The hot kind of confidence is the one that shows you're very comfortable with who you are. It also means you don't take yourself too seriously and aren't afraid of looking silly or being wrong from time to time. Men with confidence don't need the macho shield that so many women find off putting.
10. The Ability To Make People Laugh
There's no denying it: funny men do really well with the ladies. When it comes down to it, physical attractiveness is only going to be a novelty for so long. Having a good time and being able to laugh together is something that can make a relationship really last the distance. It's not like you have to be a professional comedian but being able to make and take a joke sometimes is essential for a happy relationship.
After all, laughing has been scientifically proven to make people live longer, healthier, and happier lives, so can you blame us for wanting a bit of that in our relationships? If you don't think of yourself as a funny guy, don't worry, sometimes being able to take a joke is just as important. Watch funny shows together and laugh as much as possible!
11. Admitting When He's Wrong
One of the biggest turn offs for women is when a man can't admit that he made a mistake or that he was wrong in an argument. If you drove around for hours because you refused to ask for directions and you still can't admit that you had no idea where you were going, it's not going to look great in front of the woman you're with. If you argued and argued about a fact and the internet proves you wrong, simply admit she was right instead of finding obscure loopholes.
You may feel like you lose a bit of pride when you admit defeat. But trust us, it is far more attractive than insisting you're right when you so clearly aren't. If this is a problem for you, start practicing saying "you're right, I made a mistake."
Give us a man who can talk about history, science, politics, philosophy, or really any interesting topic that requires some level of intelligence. You don't even have to be an expert - knowing a little bit about a lot and being able to hold a smart conversation is more than enough. As we've mentioned, physical traits don't end up keeping the relationship together. But intelligent conversation between couples is something that can help it last a long time.
If you're interested in a particular subject, share it with your date. Showing off your knowledge is a turn on, as long as you're not being arrogant about it. Open up a conversation and see what she has to say about the topic, too. Two-way dialogue is a great way to form bonds and keep your relationship strong.
13. Not Afraid Of Commitment
Moody guys who refuse to commit are no longer the type that women are trying to lock down. That stereotype has become tired and now men who commit are looking much more attractive. The ladies have realized there's no point in trying to convert someone who doesn't want to dedicate themselves to a loving relationship, so if you appear non-committal, it's going to end up being a problem for you.
Being 100 percent ready to say "I want to be with you exclusively" is sexy and most women will love hearing those words spoken to them. We've got enough going on in our lives and don't have time left over to chase boys who simply aren't interested in a commitment. We're not necessarily talking about marriage here. Just an acknowledgement that you're moving forward in life together.
14. Full Of Surprises
We've all had those days: major traffic on the way to work, a terrible, draining day at the office, an argument with a co-worker, followed by drinks for some event that you're not even interested in. Once you've finally made the drive home you're ready to collapse. Do you know what can make all that better in just a few seconds? A man who is full of surprises.
Walking in the door after a shocking day and being met with a bunch of flowers and a warm hug is just the kind of thing women are after, so if you can deliver the goods you're going to do really well. It's not just flowers - doing thoughtful things will never go unappreciated, especially when it's a lovely surprise. Even taking your lady out for an impromptu coffee can be a wonderful treat.
15. Cooking Skills
We're not going to lie, if you have the cooking skills of Jamie Oliver, that would be amazing. However, most women are very realistic and don't expect a Michelin star feast from their partners. As long as you have a few regular dishes that taste pretty good, things are going to go pretty well for you when it comes to dining. It's great to have someone cook for you, so being able to do that for your lady scores you some big brownie points.
If you've never cooked a meal in your life, it's time to get started. Some women love cooking, but most don't want to be the ones sorting out dinner every night. There's no excuse for not learning your way around a kitchen, so get to it and increase your chances of women finding you more attractive.
16. Dad Potential
Women love being able to tell if their man will be a good dad to their shared children in the future. Not all of us are looking to have kids, but many of us are, and it's a task you don't go into with someone who isn't going to do a good job. Sometimes, it's easy to tell. For example, if the man in question already has his own children. Being a good father is definitely going to be attractive to the woman you're with.
If you're not already a dad, the general way that you interact with children is going to be something the woman you're dating notices. If you have any small nieces or nephews or if she has young kids in her family, being part of their lives in a positive way will show her that you've got great dad potential.
We've already discussed how important it is for a man to have his own purpose and goals in life. Staying motivated to achieve those is essential in moving forward together as partners. But, it's also important that couples motivate one another to stay on track when things aren't always going right. We all have low points in life when we need a bit of an extra push, so a man who can inspire and motivate in tough times is very attractive to most women.
Encouraging your partner to achieve her dreams and helping her to think positive thoughts about herself and her abilities is one of the best qualities a man can have. Believe us when we say that no woman wants a man who stands in her way or is unenthusiastic about her goals.
18. Unafraid To Grow
Most humans know that we're never really 'finished' as people. There's always room to grow, change, and become better versions of ourselves. A man who recognizes that fact will always be attractive to women. We aren't looking for somebody who thinks they're 'done' and isn't willing to work on and improve themselves. A man who consistently works at being better is a man that women will be interested in.
This doesn't have to be a dramatic pursuit to become a superstar. It can be as simple as always having a book to read, learning something new every now and again, trying out an activity you've never tried before, traveling to exciting new places, or making new friends with different points of view to your own. The more you push yourself out of your comfort zone, the more you'll grow as a person.
19. Lovable Nerdiness
If you're a major Star Wars nerd or you're obsessed with fantasy worlds like Lord of the Rings, don't worry about hiding it! Being open about your nerdy hobbies is kind of cute, and owning it is better than trying to keep it a secret. As long as you're not crazy obsessed, women don't have a problem with men who embrace these kinds of hobbies.
Video games usually go hand-in-hand with all of the mainstream geeky passions, and they're totally fine, too. But a word of caution: don't play them 24/7 and never blow off a date or other set plans with your woman in order to play them. This is a major turn off for most women. After all, can you blame us for not wanting to come in second place to a computer?
20. Good Cuddles
Who doesn't love a good cuddle? Enjoying being close and offering as many hugs as necessary is a great quality in a man (or woman!). Most women won't want to continue a relationship with a man who isn't physically affectionate beyond sexual activity. Holding one another is a wonderful way to grow intimacy between a couple and those who are physically close have often been shown to have happier relationships.
In addition to this, most women love the feeling of a big strong hug from their man. It can make us feel safe and loved, so we'll always be wanting as many cuddles as possible. If cuddling doesn't come naturally for you, try to keep in mind that the woman you're with may be expecting some hugs. As long as you're not withholding completely, it won't be a problem.
21. Willingness To Help Out
More than anything, women sometimes just want a man who is happy to take out the trash without being asked. It's not so much the act itself (we know we could get it done in five minutes ourselves) but a willingness to help when it's needed that women are attracted to. This isn't limited to garbage duty - being aware of little tasks around the house and being happy to help get them done is one of the gold-star qualities women look for in a man.
If you sense that your partner is a bit grumpy with how lazy you are at home, start changing your attitude right now. It's not fair to expect her to do all the work. It's also not fair to expect her to tell you what to do. You are both grown-ups and she is not your mother.
22. Ability To Have Fun
No matter who you are, what your job is, or what kinds of responsibilities you have in life, it's so important that you're also able to have fun. Especially with your romantic partner. There are so many qualities you can offer as a good partner, but if you can't have fun, a lot of them will seem totally worthless. Who wants to go through life with Mr. Boring?
Being able to have fun doesn't mean you have to constantly come up with wild ideas for dates that include expensive activities. It can mean being spontaneous from time to time, it can mean being able to laugh at a TV show together, it can mean booking a trip together at least once a year, or it could mean getting outdoors and playing some sport as a couple.
23. Concern For The Environment
If a man doesn't care about the environment, what does that say about him? For women, this could mean a number of things, including not having dad potential and not being able to keep things tidy around the house (both important qualities from earlier in the article). However, most importantly, it shows he doesn't care about the world we live in.
A man who cares about the environment is extremely attractive. We're not just talking about doing the recycling once a week, either. A man who is educated about climate change, who picks up other people's trash when he sees it, and loves plants and wildlife is a good man to have around. If you're not totally invested in the health of our environment, maybe you should start learning and develop a passion for it.
24. Loves Our Flaws
Nothing is more attractive to a woman than a man who accepts her just the way she is. And not only accepts, but actually loves her for all of her flaws. Society is constantly putting the pressure on women to be perfect, so to find a man who loves us anyway is a wonderful thing. The internet, TV, and magazines are forever telling us we're too fat, too skinny, too loud, too quiet, too career-focused, not career-focused enough, and so much more.
Bear this in mind when you find a woman you'd like to pursue. Whether it's that tiny bit of belly fat, the super loud voice, or the snoring at night, loving the flaws in your partner is essential for a strong relationship. We promise it goes both ways - we'll love your flaws, too!
25. Strong Moral Fiber
Not many of us are looking for a self-righteous do-gooder, but a man with strong morals, who knows right from wrong is always going to be attractive to women. Recognizing when something is unfair, especially when it comes to world issues, is a special and rare quality that many women are looking for in a partner. It shows real sensitivity and concern for people other than yourself. It shows that you think about things on a deeper level.
While some women might go for a man with an unethical job who makes a lot of money, most of us would prefer a guy with a moral compass and the strength to turn down money if it's not made in the right way. So, if this is you, keep being you! Believe us when we say that you are absolutely appreciated.
When you think about it, things haven't really changed all that much since medieval times. Women still very much appreciate a bit of bravery - a man with courage is hot. Though these days it's not so much about winning duels on horseback as it is about daring to succeed in more modern-day scenarios. If you're someone who can take a leap of faith and land on your feet, it's going to be very attractive to potential female partners.
What are these modern-day challenges we speak of? It could be as simple as learning to surf or traveling to somewhere exciting. Maybe you're taking a risk and starting your own business. Or perhaps you're finally taking the final step towards property ownership. All of these require some level of courage, and women can't get enough of it.
These days, it seems like relationships are falling apart all the time due to infidelity. It has reached the point where it's rare to find a partner who you can trust to remain faithful. If you're a man who can demonstrate that you'd never cheat on your lady, it's going to be a major turn on. Some people have started to think that cheating is almost inevitable. But most women still hold onto hope that faithful men exist out there.
When the initial passion of the honeymoon phase wears off, love becomes a choice. It is your choice to stay faithful and say no to temptation and it's what will set you apart from other men who can't seem to find the self-control. Stay strong, be loyal, and you will definitely be rewarded with love!
28. A Sense Of Protectiveness
Before we start off on the wrong foot, let's just make it clear that we don't mean someone who will be like our dad. Nobody is looking for a strict protector, but a certain sense of protectiveness does go a long way. It shows you care about your partner and are dedicated to looking after the relationship. Your woman can make her own decisions but knowing you're there in case they go wrong is an extra comfort.
Trust your partner to fend off unwanted male attention in the club. If you have a sense of protectiveness she'll know she can signal you for help if she really needs it. It's all about caring but also knowing when to take a step back and let her handle things. If you can balance these things it will make you super attractive to women.
29. Emotional Stability
Let's face it - we all have our demons. Not many people have had the perfect life and we all have our own personal issues to deal with. We're not saying you have to enter relationships with zero baggage, but dealing with that baggage in a mature way and showing emotional stability is very attractive to women. We already have our own problems to worry about, and dealing with someone else's stuff isn't our idea of a good situation.
A man who recognizes he has some problems to sort out and then takes control of it is a rare find, so you'll find women are very receptive if you're actively working on making yourself better. When two people come to a relationship as emotionally stable individuals, the chances of it succeeding are so much higher. Your partner should never have to be your therapist.
30. Financial Maturity
Nothing is more worrying than partnering up with someone who doesn't know how to manage their money. What happens when you're a couple and it becomes your joint bank account? A man who can't control their spending is a big turn off for women. Whatever your vice, whether it's partying, shopping for non-essential items, or ordering take-out food every night, your partner is going to notice if you waste money non-stop.
Don't get us wrong, it's great to use your money to have a good time. But just not all the time. Some of your hard-earned cash should go towards meaningful pursuits, such as saving for a home, the vacation of a lifetime, preparing for a family, or helping others. You don't have to have a lot of money, but it is very attractive if you know what to do with it.
31. Good Grooming
We've said it once and we'll say it a thousand times - physical appearance will never be the most important thing to a woman. So, when we refer to 'good grooming' we're not talking about being naturally 'hot' or anything like that. We're talking about when a man puts some effort into looking after himself. Some guys roll out of bed and leave the house, but it's honestly more attractive to women if you take a shower first.
And it doesn't end at showers. Wearing deodorant, ironing your shirts, keeping your shoes relatively shiny, and washing your hair from time to time also helps. Taking an interest in what you wear and buying clothes that suit your body type is another easy win. You don't have to be good looking, but some good grooming will always go a long way.
Patience in a man will never ever go unappreciated. Patience when we take too long to get ready, patience when we're stressed and need to vent, patience when we can't make a decision, and basically patience any time we're having a 'moment' is one of the most attractive qualities you can possess. Men with short tempers and no understanding won't last in a happy relationship with a woman for very long.
If we're being real, patience is something both members of a romantic relationship need. We're not the exact same people, and understanding that is the key to remaining patient with your significant other. When you're getting frustrated waiting around for her to get ready, remember that she probably controls herself when you're playing video games. In some ways, patience is absolutely crucial for a working relationship.
33. The Ability To Forgive And Forget
There's no such thing as the person who never messed anything up in a relationship before. Some mistakes are unforgiveable and impossible to forget. But other more minor mistakes can and should be left in the past if the relationship is to survive. The worst thing you can do is say you forgive and then hold your partner's mistake over their head until the end of time. Forgiving is good, but forgetting and moving past it is just as important.
This is especially relevant for small blunders that didn't betray your trust or your relationship in any way. If a woman knows she can go to you when she has messed up and you will show her kindness and forgiveness, it is a beautiful thing that will help your relationship thrive in the long run.
This one especially counts in the courting phase of a relationship. The days of playing hard to get are well and truly over. Women just aren't that into chasing game players anymore. These days, many women are learning more and more about their own worth as people, so a man who doesn't respect that by responding accordingly to communication isn't going to get very far at all.
If a woman you like texts you, don't wait several days to text her back. If you like her, text her back as soon as you get a chance. Any other kind of response is game playing and won't be appreciated. Women talk to each other about how great the men they're seeing are because they reply right away. Be one of those guys and you're in with a good chance.
A sense of curiosity in a man is always attractive to women, especially if the curiosity is about her and her life. Showing an interest in someone and expressing curiosity about the things they like (even if they're not the things you like) is flattering and shows them that you're interested in them as a person. There's nothing worse than someone who only wants to discuss things they already know about or are interested in.
If you think you might be guilty of only talking about your own hobbies and interests, spend some time listening. Next time she talks about art class, book club, volleyball, cooking, or her other hobbies, ask her some questions. Volleyball may be the last thing you're interested in hearing about, but showing a sense of curiosity will be very much appreciated.
36. Respectful Of Boundaries
Women love men who challenge, motivate, and encourage them to do the things they've always wanted to do. But there is definitely a line. Beyond all of this, you need to be respectful of her boundaries (as she should also be with yours). If she says she's not comfortable, she's unsure of something, or gives you a flat-out 'no' make sure you take it seriously, no matter how silly it seems at the time.
She might not want you to push her into the pool, she might not want to try eel at your favorite Japanese restaurant, she might not be ready to quit her job for that creative pursuit yet. Of course, this also extends to the sexual arena. Don't push her, it's really not attractive at all. If you respect her and her boundaries she'll definitely want to hold onto you.
37. An Interest In The World
A man who recognizes that there are things going on in the world besides the things going on in his own bubble is super attractive to women. If you're a man who reads books and newspapers or makes other efforts to find out what's going on, women will certainly find you very appealing and boyfriend-worthy. The last thing we're after is a dude whose world only encompasses complaining about work and anything else within a five-mile radius of his home.
Having an interest in the world around you shows that you're caring, always open to new things, can hold a conversation about various topics, and aren't totally self-involved. It also shows that you know what's important in life. And imagine the long talks into the night with your partner. How could it not be attractive?
Again, this one doesn't come down to physical traits. It doesn't even come down to physical abilities or medical conditions. We are talking about men who are invested in looking after themselves. A guy who parties every night, doesn't eat his vegetables, smokes or does drugs all the time, stresses too much, and generally has no respect for their body is not attractive. It might be exciting for a while, but women will eventually start finding the party boy tiresome. The workaholic is another example of someone who doesn't always look after themselves.
At the end of the day, many women are looking for a life partner. If you don't take care of your health and it looks like you might be cutting your own life short, it's going to be a major turn off.
39. Not Afraid Of PDA
Public displays of affection - better known as PDA - are not great if you're a member of the public. But if you're a loved-up couple, holding hands, kissing, and holding each other in public is all part of the fun of courtship. Nobody is suggesting you start getting hot and heavy at the local shopping mall, but a little escalator kiss or an arm around the shoulders never goes unappreciated.
Women enjoy when a man is willing to be affectionate in public with them. It shows they're proud of the relationship and don't care who sees it. A man who is physically cold in public is not any woman's idea of a dream man. If you feel like you've been holding back, why not get initiated with a bit of hand holding. Trust us, women love it!
40. Willingness To Say 'I Love You'
It's great when a man shows his love. But don't forget to verbalize it, too. No matter how much you do to indicate how much you love your partner, it's still one of the best things in the world to hear the words "I love you." If you're not much of a communicator, this can be tough to remember, but try to get into the habit of it, as women can't get enough of a man who speaks his love.
Say it when you wake up or before you go to bed. Say it at pretty much any time of the day. Just try to say it once a day and make sure you're the initiator at least half the time. Responding with an "I love you, too" doesn't score you as many points as saying it first.
One of the easiest ways to set your relationship on a downward spiral is to start taking your partner for granted. Don't ever stop showing appreciation for the things she does or the person she is, or she'll eventually start being attracted to guys who will show it. Show her you appreciate her by telling her what you love about her all the time. Thank her for the things she does, even if she does them for you all the time.
As relationships stretch into years, it can start to feel like unpaid labor when your partner takes everything you do for granted. That's why a man who shows his appreciation is super attractive to most women. Even a smile or a kiss as she picks you up from work or telling her that dinner tastes amazing can show how thankful you are.
42. Physical Desire
We've talked about the importance of being a good lover. But possessing genuine physical desire for your partner is also a major turn on. Women love to feel sexy, and to see that you struggle to keep your hands off of her will increase her interest in you even more. If your woman drives you wild, you'll be a naturally better lover to her. You'll want to please her in every way possible and the feeling will probably be reciprocated.
If you're not feeling the sort of physical desire that you should be feeling toward your sexual partner, maybe it's time to mix things up a bit. Sometimes even bedroom time can become a routine after a while. If there's a problem, the sooner you discuss it openly, the sooner it can be fixed. Don't let things get boring in bed!
43. Leadership Skills
While it's very true that women are no longer the natural subordinates in relationships, a man with leadership skills is still very attractive. Nobody wants to be in control at all times, so it's great to be able to rely on your partner to take charge in certain situations. Some couples like to divide the shared duties, while others will take turns. Either way, the ability to step up will really improve your chances with the ladies.
If you feel like it's always your partner who is running the show, ask her if she'd like you to handle some of the duties. She'll most likely appreciate you taking control and being willing to lead. Don't sit around waiting to be delegated to or you could be damaging your relationship or causing your partner to be less attracted to you.
Nobody is saying you never have to try to improve or grow as a person, but it's always important to be your authentic self, especially if you are looking to meet new women. One of the best things about relationships is that you're supposed to love each other for who you both truly are, so if you enter under a false personality, it could be your undoing in the end.
If you don't love all of her hobbies, don't pretend you do. If you're a bit of a dork, don't try to act cool all the time. If you're terrible at cooking, just admit it. Women love when a man is comfortable with who he is. You'll also be a lot more relaxed and fun to be around if you aren't worrying about trying to impress anyone.
Being indecisive about everything is quite possibly one of the most frustrating qualities in a man. Women love a man who knows what he wants, and the ability to make decisions is definitely tied up in all that. Sometimes it's great if you can decide on a restaurant and tell her that's where you're going tonight. Always leaving it up to your partner can be annoying and not a turn on at all.
A lot of the reason why men tend to leave some decisions to women is because they're worried they're going to make the wrong choice. But the fact of the matter is that we'll appreciate you making the decision, even if it wasn't the best one you could have made. Don't be afraid to step up and take the reins - it's far more attractive than not doing it.
What's the point of even having a partner if you can't rely on them for anything? Being someone that women can count on is definitely one of the most attractive qualities you can have. If you always answer your phone, are ready to help out in a crisis, and don't shirk your responsibilities, women will appreciate that and it will definitely make you great boyfriend material. Nobody wants to settle down with someone flakey.
Do you regularly miss important calls from people in your life who need your help? Maybe it's time to start paying attention and being a bit more reliable. We're not saying you have to be a slave to the people you love, but being somebody people can count on is a great quality that women find very attractive in a man.
A man with integrity will always be attractive to women. Knowing who you are and being willing to stand up for what's right is incredibly sexy and it's a sign that you'll also be honest, faithful, and reliable in a relationship. Guys with integrity generally only work jobs that are ethical and in line with their life philosophy. You won't catch them working for casinos or huge oil companies.
Integrity isn't really something that can be taught - it comes from within yourself. However, you can start to become more aware of what's going on around you and start developing some principles. What do you care about? What do you stand for? What things are more important than money to you? Figuring out what you truly care about will lead you to integrity. This is something women can really respect in a man.
48. Domestic Abilities
Gone are the days where women picked up all the slack in the home. As a man, you need to be willing to do your share of the house work. Cooking, cleaning, washing, and tidying are all part of maintaining a clean home, and if you don't know your way around these tasks, you might be ditched sooner than you expected. A man who knows how to run a household is extremely attractive in this day and age!
If you don't know how to do these things, just be honest and willing to learn. Or, get one of your family members or friends to give you a quick training session on some of the cleaning basics. Really, there's no valid excuse not to be doing your own laundry and dishes if you're a grown man.
Whether it's with your time, money, skills, or belongings, generosity never goes unnoticed and most women find it a total turn on. If you're the first person to buy a round at the bar, or you love giving up hours of time teaching your nephew how to play baseball, or you're always quick to lend your car or other belongings to friends in need, you're definitely one of the good ones. Women love this quality because men like this make great dads.
Being cagey with your things indicates that you don't want to share your life with anyone. It could also signal that the people in your life don't mean as much to you as your stuff. You can see how women wouldn't necessarily love this in a man. Try to be a bit more giving in life and you'll reap the rewards.
Whether you're a man or a woman, self-respect is a must-have quality when you're looking for a partner. Allowing yourself to be treated poorly and not recognizing your worth can be a sign that you need to work on you for a while and put relationships on hold until you understand your value as a person. A man with no self-respect isn't attractive to a confident woman who is looking for a confident male partner.
When you work on your confidence, things like leadership skills, decisiveness, authenticity, courageousness, and integrity will come naturally. It's a tough thing to fix and definitely can't be done overnight, but it can definitely be done! Self-respect is at the root of all healthy relationships. If you can't even respect yourself, how can you expect any respect from your partner?